Balenciaga F/W 09 Pourpre GGH Part Time (Photo credit: ne me quitte pas)
So the opportunity came up for me to switch from full-time to part-time – you’d think we would have jumped on that shit since it’s what both of us had been hoping for, right? Wrong. It was a lot harder a decision than I would have thought it would be. I didn’t have confidence in my ability to make up the lost money with my side projects – even though I’m always saying that if I had more TIME they would be successful… but what it they weren’t? What if I failed? What if we went to part-time and we couldn’t afford to pay our bills? Going to part-time would make the family have to pay attention to what we were spending money on. Not take trips. Not do as many sports and activities. Not go out to eat. Not have cable. And on and on and on. I didn’t want to be the person that stopped all of that, just so I could get what I wanted. Would it have been better for our family? I don’t know. But in the end, I couldn’t make the decision. I didn’t want to be the one to take all of that away… so I asked JR to decide. He decided that we probably couldn’t afford it (he had just taken a pay cut to go to his new job) and I went with his decision. In hindsight, I probably should have taken the part-time position. I should have had the courage to take a chance and see if I had what it took to make up the money we would be losing from my reduced hours. But I didn’t.
For whatever reason, after the decision was made, I had no problem creating a budget and cutting down on spending. I made an allowance for JR and I, created a food budget, lowered our phone data plan and went to work canceling the cable. I couldn’t do it when it meant the family was sacrificing for something I wanted, but as soon as that was out of the equation, I didn’t feel bad about it at all. It helps to take away some of the disappointment from still having to work full-time and evenings to know that we are working towards me switching to part-time. Now, if the opportunity ever arises again, I won’t feel bad about doing these things – because they will already be in place.
But… budgeting sucks. It is NO FUN. Although some of it is kind of like riding a bike – you never forget how – we got so used to spending money and not thinking about it that it’s rather annoying to have to pay attention to it now. Both JR were really, really poor during parts of our adult lives and I know it’s hard for him to go back to living like that. For me it makes it easier knowing that we don’t actually HAVE to. We aren’t wondering where the money is going to come from to pay the bills – we are just living frugally to save up money so we can complete a goal.
There’s a big difference. (But it still stinks.)
So, JoJo has this ducky stuffed animal/security blanket thing that she sleeps with every night that JR’s mom got her when she was born. She’s not insanely attached to it yet, but it’s looking like we are heading in that direction… We noticed last night that it was getting a little dingy and JR suggested that we purchase another one as a stand-in so we can clean ducky #1 (we have an owl version for travelling – we’ve already instated the rule that ducky doesn’t ever leave the house). I went to scour the web today to find another ducky, thinking it would cost us like $10.00 at the most to get ducky #2. Nope. They are running $20-$40! Apparently, even though it was only nine months ago when ducky #1 was purchased, they are no longer producing this version of the stuffed animal.
Thankfully, I found it on eBay for $13 and some change. I’m super grateful I didn’t end up paying more for the back-up stuffed animal than my mother-in-law paid for the original! Truthfully, though, I am just really happy I found it at all. I probably would have still bought the damn thing, even at the higher price. Better to get it now at $20 while they still have some than hunt one down in two years when they’re like $80!
This little ducky has been wonderful with helping our Jo fall asleep. It’s easy for her pudgy little hands to grasp and really soft. She loves to snuggle her little cheek next to the ducky’s head and drift off – perfect size. I love Carter’s products anyhow! They are one brand I can always count on to provide high quality products.
The only downside to ducky is that he is such a light color that ANY dirt shows up. TicksJr’s favorite stuffed animal is a Curious George plush and the dark brown hides the dirt a lot better!
The owl one is practically the same thing, although the Owl’s shape is a little harder for her to grab onto than the ducky.
English: I photographed this picture from a public restroom. It is a female symbol for the women’s restroom. I intend to use it on the toilet article to show the two commonly used male and female pictograms on public restrooms in the United States–Dark Tichondrias 08:02, 12 July 2006 (UTC) For variant version (more standard AIGA symbol), see Image:Toilet women.svg . (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I don’t have time to exercise, but I do have time to do my 5 minute Bathroom Pilates. What is that you ask? (Or even if you didn’t, I’m going to tell you anyway.) Every time I have to go to the bathroom at work, I make a point to hold my stomach in and flex the muscles. In real Pilates, I believe they call this “strengthening your core” – in Bathroom Pilates I call this sucking-in-your-gut-and-pushing-down-with-your-muscles. Same difference though. Since our bathroom here at work is ALL the way down the hall, I make sure my muscles are engaged the entire way down there. Once I get to the bathroom stall, I let my stomach muscles relax and it’s time to focus on my leg muscles. I don’t know about you, but I generally hover when I’m in a public restroom. Taking advantage of this already Pilate-like situation, I bounce while I’m hovering and doing my business. Then, when all the business has been completed (and I don’t mean pooping – I don’t poop in public restrooms) I put my arms straight out in front of me and make small bouncing movements. I’ve actually been asked to do this move many times in past exercise classes and in said classes they always say to imagine that you are on a toilet – that’s what makes this so genius! You ARE on a toilet!
After legs, I go back to abs (after I wash my hands of course) and maybe stop at the drinking fountain for a quick blast of water… might as well encourage yourself to exercise more, right? Throw in some Kegels randomly and you’ve got quite the little exercise routine!
Keepin’ it classy.